Needing a community space to non-verbally process my delayed grief response of my parents’ death, I recently attended a grief dancing ceremony.
Grief Dancing Ceremony
As a kid, I became the natural caretaker of my two amazing parents. My dad suddenly died from a heart attack in March of 2006 (I was 18). And my mom died from a long battle with breast cancer in December of 2008 (I was 21). It has been almost 10 years that I have been without parents in my life.
Soon after my parents’ deaths, I advanced my care-taking knowledge and skills by becoming a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Initially I wanted to continue my 5 year long career path as a Public Health researcher, however becoming a mental health therapist seemed to be my natural next step.
I became dedicated to my successful and intensive professional path. As a result, I’ve also successfully avoided diving deep into my grief work until about a year ago. ...READ MORE...
Through utilizing my ever growing collection of nature based metaphors, I will briefly reflect on my most recent camping road trip adventure.
Nature Based Metaphors and My Life
Nature based metaphors are a powerful tool to use when trying to understand the dynamics and behavior of something potentially intangible. Recently I turned off my cell phone for the weekend and escaped on a camping road trip around NE Washington. My ultimate goal focused on disconnection from the every day hustle. However, now reflecting back on my experience, I realize that I actually longed for a re-connection to nature. And, to highlight the complexity of my internal adventure, I will use nature based metaphors to explore my intense weekend journey. The nature based metaphor themes include: earth, water, wind, heart, and fire. ...READ MORE...
I wrote this poem about a fictional stale marriage using inspiration from a Creative Collaboration. I posted on Facebook: “Look to your right, what do you see?” All answers to the question are formatted in the poem like *this*, and I wrote the poem within the goal of an hour.
A Stale Marriage
Stuck between *dirty dishes
A red bed pillow
And the wall* ...READ MORE...
I created this fictional story about the work life balance by doing another “Creative Collaboration”. I posted on Facebook: “Before looking at your phone, what was the last thing you saw?” All suggested words were used in the order received, and are formatted in the story like *this*.
Amy’s Work Life Balance
Amy finally escaped the office after another 12 hour day of working like a *dog*, which involved mostly sitting in front of a computer. Though Amy’s mom encouraged the recent work transition that focused more on stretching Amy’s mental instead of physical abilities, Amy missed her *dancing* days. Amy’s English bulldog, Scallywag, also seemed less enthused by the new work schedule. ...READ MORE...
A short poem written using a woman’s direct descriptions about her stressful relationship, and how this stress worsened her medical heart condition. I wrote this poem by rearranging my word-for-word notes of what she said.
This poem is evidence that we are our own best therapists, if only we could learn to truly listen to ourselves.
Saving My Heart
I show love by doing things for others
If I stop, then I feel I don’t care anymore ...READ MORE...